Seven Reasons Why People Give Up – and what to do about it!

Wes York

Wes York


When you set a new goal, you’ll often have a vision of how successful you will be when you reach that goal.


In reality, getting there isn’t always easy, and to achieve success, you must go after your goals with every shred of determination you have. Some people find this too difficult, and they give up before they’ve even started. Your challenge is to keep that goal in sight, and push forward no matter what.


Below is a list of seven reasons why people often give up on their goals – and how you can overcome them!


You’re not willing to put in the time


Many people make the mistake of taking on more than they have time for.


It’s extremely easy to underestimate how much time it will take to complete a certain task or goal. People get overwhelmed if a goal isn’t achieved within a certain time frame, and this leads to them giving up.


The key to overcoming this is by honing your time management skills and teaching yourself how to use time more effectively. Sit down and write up a plan for your goal, focus on the most important parts first, spend time dictating what will get you the best results, and stay focused on getting those results rather than just completing tasks.


By setting goals wisely and working on your time management, you will achieve goals, sustain motivation and reduce stress – even if things don’t go exactly to plan.


You’re not willing to do the hard work


It’s easy to give up when something you want is more difficult than expected – in a pinch you can lose your motivation, and tell yourself it was impossible anyway – but this thinking will only deter you from ever moving forward in life.


Growing up, everyone heard the quote – “anything worth doing takes hard work” – and if you apply this to your goals and ambitions, there’s no doubt you will succeed.


The pathway to unlocking your potential will not always be an easy one, but remember that the goals you will be most proud of achieving will always be the most challenging ones to reach. Recognising that nothing comes without hard work and practise is essential for moving past this stage.


In order to excel you need to learn and develop new skills, try your hardest, pick yourself up when things get hard, and keep pushing on – eventually things will become easier, and you’ll be amazed at the feeling of accomplishment when you finally get there.


Your goal is unrealistic


When you’re setting goals, you need to unleash your imagination and your ambition. Put aside your reservations and dream big. Once you have decided on a goal, however, you need to be sure that it’s realistic and achievable.


Some people give up because they make the mistake of choosing goals that are unrealistic. They look only at the goal through one lens, they miss the bigger picture, and they forget to sit down and think about a time frame that makes their goal attainable.


For example, if your goal is to run a marathon, it’s unrealistic to sign up for one in two weeks unless you’ve already trained for a few months. Just as it’s unrealistic to set your sights on becoming a CEO of a company, unless you’ve had enough experience.


Plan your strategies and set realistic goals by ensuring that what you want to achieve is specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bound.


You’re distracted


We now live in a technology-driven society; the people around us, as well as our computers, our televisions, and our phones, can easily swoop in and distract us without us even realising it.


Having numerous goals can also distract us – sometimes we can’t decide what we want to focus on, we get caught off guard when something new pops up and competes for our time and energy. Sometimes we switch goals, back and forth – these distractions stop us from moving forward.


A good way to stop procrastinating and focus on your goals is by turning off and unplugging the electronics, finding a quiet, undisturbed place, and taking time to yourself to go through things.


In general, if you’re finding yourself distracted from your goals, you need to stop multi-tasking and try focusing on one thing at a time, otherwise, goals, tasks and ideas can become muddled. By taking on one thing at a time, and tuning out of the distractions around you, you will increase effectiveness and efficiency.


There’s an insufficient reward


Some people succeed in the goals they set. They work hard, they put in time and effort, and reach for their dreams.


However, sometimes they get there and they’re disappointed. They didn’t get enough results, didn’t achieve their desired happiness, or their achievement didn’t translate into new goals. They get put off because they worked hard, gained nothing, and as a result, they give up.


The best way to stop this from happening is by setting small milestones along the way, and celebrating these milestones. You cannot transform yourself overnight, and by setting smaller goals along the way, you will slowly but surely reap the rewards.


Rewarding yourself, even for small progress, will ensure you feel that much more amazing when you reach the end.


Old habits die hard


Getting started on a goal isn’t the hardest part. The hardest part is sticking with it.


Many of us can count the number of times we started a new habit or lifestyle change, only to give up after a while. Maintaining a change in behaviour is difficult, and often we fear the new or unknown. To move forward, you must be prepared to keep up changes.


Focus on your progress, not perfection, and try your best not to fall back in to old patterns. Personal change swings back and forth, and sometimes personal progression can be as small as two steps forward, one step back.


Next time you feel like giving up, think about all your goals, your dreams, and about how motivated you are. If you want something bad enough, you will put in the hard work, practise, persist and succeed! Remember that old habits die hard!


You’re making too many excuses


The biggest reason people often bow out of achieving their goals is their excuses! Bluntly, excuses are the killers of dreams.


As humans, we love making excuses for ourselves. We naturally want to stay within our comfort zones, but if we stay like that, we never grow or move forward with our lives. Often we stick to this comfort zone because of fear, but the way to break the cycle is to overcome this fear in order to stop making excuses.


The less fearful you are, the less you’ll hide behind excuses. If you don’t overcome fear you’ll keep yourself from achieving your full potential, you’ll lose creativity, rely on excuses, and won’t take responsibility when things go awry.


A good way to recognise your excuses, is to note them, figure out what fears come from the excuses, and redefine them as opportunities.


So, what now?


It’s easy to give up, especially when it seems like everything is in your way. Achieving your goals will never be easy, and there will be so many roadblocks to overcome. By taking note of these seven steps, you will be on the right path to achieving your goals, dreams and finding happiness.

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